When did we acquire the fear to make mistakes? I was wondering if a child would learn to walk if every time he/she falls down, the parents criticize him/her. I wonder if a surfer would get to enjoy the experience of learning to surf, if every time he falls down, he thinks, “Here you go, I failed again.” Before we learn to ride a bicycle, we fall many times. At the end, learning to ride a bicycle is worth the effort.
In school, we are marked down if we make mistakes, if we fall down below the standard. There is research supporting the idea that innovation blossoms when people are given the space to make mistakes. Even Mahatma Gandhi valued experimentation and said, “Freedom isn’t worth having if it doesn’t include the freedom to make mistakes.”
Then why don’t we allow and encourage making mistakes? At work or business, we avoid mistakes in order not to be seen as incompetent. There is an underlying message that in order to be successful, we need to be experts. How would we learn if something works for us or is for us, unless we try it first?
The fear we have of making mistakes is the underlying cause for procrastination. If we lived our lives as a surfer who knows that falling down is a natural part of the experience, we would take more risks. There are so many difficult conversations we are avoiding all the time with our boss, our partner, friends, family, etc. That book or e-mail we wanted to read/write or send. That new business idea or product you are overanalyzing.
If we fall down (because if we risk, you will fall), you will get up and keep going for the sake of the adventure of being alive. So why don’t we accept falling or failure as part of the ride? We are afraid of feeling something unpleasant. At the same time, the same unpleasant feeling is a reminder that we are alive.
Photo by Gabriela Ludusan
Here’s your set of Wellness Links for the week of May 6th, submitted by Gabriela Ludusan, Mentor Program Coordinator from Diversity and Immigrant Student Support. Enjoy!
- The one magazine that I read every day is the Elephant Journal. I like the focus on “the mindful life”: yoga, sustainability, conscious consumerism, non-new-agey spirituality, enlightened education, wellness and adventure…anything that helps us to live a good life that also happens to be good for others, and our planet. Read it with my morning coffee, every morning.
- The Digital Photography School is a forum dedicated to all lovers of photography. There are weekly assignments that anyone can participate in, take photos and share them with others (latest weekly challenge is “Peace”).
- Intelligence Squared is an online forum for intellectual debate. Ideas are debated by the world’s sharpest minds, experts in their fields and exciting orators. Some of the motions tackled: “THE RIGHT TO BEAR ARMS IS A FREEDOM TOO FAR”, “THE TRADITIONAL NUCLEAR FAMILY HAS HAD ITS DAY: GAY PARENTS, SINGLE PARENTS, COMMUNES – ANYTHING GOES!” It’s always interesting to see the two sides of a coin, makes for a well grounded perception and critical thinking.
- I like Dalai Lama’s approach and advocacy for an educational system with a strong focus on inner strength, tolerance, honesty, co-operation and compassion as key aspects that lead to a healthy society and progress.
- Amnesty International campaigns globally for human rights for all. I follow their updates and like to get involved in their campaigns and sign their petitions as, for me, this is a small step to take action and make a difference, but I’m trying to do my part.
- Noah’s Dad is a blog about baby Noah, Down syndrome, and videos, pictures, and facts that tell the story of Noah, his family and raising a child with Down Syndrome. The reason I follow this blog is because recently the most adorable and special baby boy was born into my family with Down syndrome and noahsdad.com is a wealth of information and resources on DS. Plus, it’s so much fun watching Noah grow up, learn and enjoy life!
- Who hasn’t watched or at least, heard of TED Talks?! TED is a nonprofit devoted to Ideas Worth Spreading. It began in 1984 as an annual conference devoted to Technology, Entertainment and Design and now TEDTalks cover science, arts, politics, global issues, architecture, music and more. Speakers come from a wide variety of communities and disciplines and it hopes that the power of ideas can change attitudes, lives and ultimately, the world.
- I recently started to follow the Diversity Journal for news and updates on diversity topics. Having started a new position in the Diversity and Immigrant Student Support department, I want to expand my knowledge in diversity/inclusion, best practices workforce diversity strategies also.
If you’d like to contribute your own set of links for a future Monday Mash, please contact Mike Krywy at firstname.lastname@example.org
April 15, 2013 • Written by Nancy Ball
This week on the Monday Mash we share some great links on music, memory, and the martial arts.
- Aikido turns conflict on its head. I’ve been fascinated by Aikido for years but have never followed my fascination into a class. The last session exercise classes here at RRC didn’t offer the Ki-Aikido classes that were offered previously and I was kicking myself for not taking the classes sooner. And since I hadn’t learned any form of Aikido yet I didn’t know how to redirect my kick and flow around it.
- If you really pay attention. This is a completely lovely story about paying attention. If you read it you can be warmed by a memory-story about learning to listen with the heart.
- SoundCloud. The SoundCloud website is an online audio distribution platform that allows collaboration, promotion and distribution of audio recordings by users. [wikipedia]. You have to sign up so that means another darn password to remember. But it’s free (or you can choose to go the paid subscription route) and you can find treasures to listen to! Or upload your own sounds, music and stories. There seem to be new audio files of all kinds uploaded every day. If you are a listener you will never run out of wonder. If you are a sound maker you will have an enormous audience.
- Virtual Choir. I had no idea I was a fan of choral music until I heard and saw Eric Whitacre’s virtual choir version of Lux Aurumque. The virtual choir concept and what Eric Whitacre has done with it is stunning and fascinating all by itself. He describes how it all started and how the process developed in this TED.com talk. You can find performances of choir music he has composed and conducted, some with virtual choirs on YouTube. I started with Lux Aurumque and continued exploring from there. Transcending is the word that floats into my brain when I think of this music.
If you have a link or a photo that you’d like to share send an email to email@example.com and we’ll try to include it in a future “Mash” edition.
December 14, 2012 • Written by Mary-Ann Shukla
As I was doing my daily scan of news, interesting tidbits etc…I came across this interesting question. I am sad to say I was not nearly as creative as the gentlemen who answered below. Keeping our minds actively engaged is just as important as honing our physical selves, so how would you answer this question. Don’t jump ahead or you will ruin it.
What would you do?
You are driving down the road in your car on a wild, stormy night, when you pass by a bus stop and you see three people waiting for the bus:
1. An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.
2. An old friend who once saved your life.
3. The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.
Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing that there could only be one passenger in your car? Think before you continue reading. Read More →
Submitted by Mary-Ann Shukla
When I mention to people I use meditation to reduce stress, I get mixed responses. Sometimes it is a snicker or I might get an occasionally ohmmm… more often the response is one of interest. When I read the article attached I saw how other people and companies are introducing meditation into the workplace. It did get me thinking “so how could I introduce this to my workplace”. If and when I figure that out I’ll let you know.
In the meantime the article was for me an affirmation that I am not alone in my struggles and I should continue my practice and more importantly share what works. Those of you on the fence about what to do about your stress level read on – Meditation finds an omm in the office.
I walked out of my apartment building this morning and it was so beautiful outside. I couldn’t help but notice the snow sparkles. I had to show my son the sparkling top layer of the snow. I have been enjoying so much the morning sunrise. We are so fortunate to see the sunrise on the way to work! I am driving and I look at the pink sky. Yes, there is beauty in winter….that’s for sure. I don’t forget the fact that I have to scrape the windshield, warm up the car, and put layers of clothes, but as I look at the sunrise and listen to some music on the way to work, my attitude changes and I set a nice tone for my day.
I guess I am trying to talk about inspiration. Isn’t it inspiration that we are all looking for in our day, in our experiences, and interactions with people? I know I am. When I read, I want to read something that moves me. If I listen to music, I want the music to get to me, I want to feel it. I am referring to experiences that touch me on a deep level. At the end of the day, these are the experiences which bring meaning to my life. Sometimes I think that my life is about connections—with family, friends, and people in general. My interactions would not be meaningful to me unless I felt connected with my loved ones on a deeper level. At least this is how I am and I am aware that people are different. And it is all good.
I don’t know about you, but I know that I was never taught to be gentle to myself, to be kind to myself, to be self-compassionate. I read an article recently addressing self-compassion and it made me think. I started asking myself “Do I give myself a break sometimes? Do I beat myself up for my faults?” Read More →
Red River College is fortunate to be able to provide a wide range of Wellness supports for staff and students (though access varies from one campus to another).
This month the Wellness Blog turns the spotlight on Chaplaincy Care. As noted in the College’s Day Planner:
Students and staff may drop by or phone Chaplaincy Care and speak with chaplains (representing various denominations) regarding personal concerns, relationships, stress, crisis situations, life issues, values, spirituality, grief or change, self-esteem, addictions, or any other concerns. Chaplaincy Care’s volunteer chaplains serve people of all races, beliefs and cultures. They are here to provide students and staff with personal support, encouragement, empowerment, hope and can facilitate study groups.
Chaplaincy Care is for students and staff looking for a listening ear or a shoulder to lean on. They provide complete confidentiality and a safe place for support and conversation as you work through life issues, stress, relationships or spiritual questions. They also provide a crisis ”Care Line”, available Monday to Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. The cell phone # is: 898-2686.
They also maintain a prayer room (A-223 on NDC) for quiet, personal prayer, meditation, renewal or reading. The room is available between 7:00 a.m. to midnight, whenever the college is open. If you want more information about these services and those who provide them, please check out the College’s website.